Sharon on Consent with Dogs!

Sharon Vincuilla (she/her) is a Human Animal Bond Facilitator and Human Canine Interaction Strategist, and Licensed Occupational Therapist. She specializes in rescue-rehabilitation with anxious and traumatized dogs.

You can follow her on IG @holisticdogexpert and read more about her work at HC-collab.com.

Share the Load explores all things consent including and beyond sex. I'm your host, Mia Schachter. I'm an intimacy coordinator for film, television, and theater in residence at the Geffen Playhouse, and a writer and educator in Los Angeles. You can find me on IG @consent.wizardry and you can reach me at podcast@sharetheloadinc.com with listener questions for future episodes. www.consentwizardry.com

Check out upcoming classes and recorded classes from Consent Wizardry.

Ways to work with me:

  • 1:1 private sessions

  • Group classes and long-form programs

  • Train with me to be a Somatic Consent Educator 

  • Hire me to Intimacy Coordinate on your project

  • Consulting for you or your company/organization or script

  • I offer customized workshops and speeches 

You can book me through sean@collectivespeakers.com.

You can find the video of this episode on Youtube with subtitles.

Please consider supporting the show financially at Patreon.com/sharetheload.

Special Episode: CJ + Mia on Dating Preferences

We talk about how our preferences in dating are shaped by the media and our environment and what we can do to challenge them in order to try not to perpetuate harmful systems of oppression to the best of our ability.

To support the show please consider joining the Patreon at Patreon.com/sharetheload.

You can find CJ on Instagram @cjkittenmiller.

Special Episode: Judy + Mia on Consent and Capitalism

In case you missed it: Judy of @hearmefinance and I talk about whether or not consent is possible within a Capitalist system on this special episode of Share the Load. We originally had this conversation on IG Live on 3/24/22.

Apologies for the garbled audio. It gets much better in the second half.

We’ll be back with our regularly scheduled programming next time!

You can watch the video version on Youtube with subtitles.

You can apply for the Share the Load Somatic Consent Educator Training until April 11.

www.sharetheloadinc.com IG: @consent.wizardry

#3.1 Scarcity and Specificity

Welcome back! This is the first episode of the show in its new structure as a call-in advice show. We talk about dating as a genderqueer person, boundaries in work, and creating that feeling of fear in a safe way in bed.

People I mention on this episode: Lina Dune of @askasub, Oumou Sylla @connectwithoumou, Meenadchi, and Rachel Flesher @rayro22.

You can see classes, the educator training, and more at sharetheloadinc.com.

If you’d like to have your call answered on the show, call (213) 290-0610 or email a voice note or written question to podcast@sharetheloadinc.com.

To support the show, join the Patreon which is a self-paced learning space with journal prompts, exercises, discount codes and more. You can write a review and rate it wherever you’re listening, or share it with friends.

#2.13 Oumou Sylla on Burnout and Consent

Oumou Sylla (@connectwithoumou) and I discuss decolonizing therapy, reimagining labor, and self energy.

Their influences are:

1. bell hooks and Assata Shakur

2. James Baldwin

3. The death of Black children at police hands.

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.12 Cory Bush on Becoming a Doula and Consent with Pain

Cory Bush (@thecorybush) is a full spectrum doula, sex educator, and childbirth educator-in-training. They support birthing people and beyond in finding empowerment at the intersection of evidence based information and personal intuition.

Their influences:

1. Father’s traumatic brain injury

2. Lito, the musician

3. Their mother


Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.11 Mona Eshaiker on Burnout

CW: suicidal ideation, animal abuse

Mona Eshaiker (@monalmft) and I discuss the honeymoon phase, learned helplessness, and asking for help.

Her influences:

1. Spirituality

2. Louis Hay

3. Asking for help

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Gutierrez. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.10 MI Leggett on Creating Your Own Identity Through Fashion

MI Leggett (@official_rebrand) and I discuss finding his identity though fashion, greenwashing, and the importance of play.

Their Influences:

1. Reading Testo Junkie while starting Testosterone.

2. Playing dodgeball with Ariana Gil of Brujas

3. Painting penises on clothes

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $3 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.9 Dr. Jon P. Higgins on Flipping Tables and Starting Fires

Dr. Jon P. Higgins (@doctorjonpaul) and I discuss how they cope with society by laughing, finding radical joy, and becoming their authentic self.

Their influences:

1. Bayard Rustin

2. Audre Lorde

3. Tre’vell Anderson 

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.8 Xenon Universe on Being a Bird of Paradise

Xenon Universe (@xenonopaluniverse) and I discuss him committing to his identity and authenticity as a performer, being a choosy bird of paradise about who he works with, and holding and nurturing the little person inside of him. 

His influences:

1. His relationships with other trans people

2. Kali Uchis, Emma Ruth Rundle, Junglepussy

3. Self care 

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.  You can also find the unedited video recording of this interview with subtitles on my YouTube channel.

#2.7 Sydney Rae Chin on Still Being Owed for Her Emotional Labor

CW: sexual assault, rape, self-harm, and a mention of blood

Sydney Rae Chin (@sydneyraechin) and I discuss putting a price on sharing her healing journey, Title IX, and transformative justice. 

You can find Sydney on her website, SydneyRaeChin.com, her Patreon, on IG @sydneyraechin & @intuitivesurvivorguide, Twitter at @sraechin, and you can email her sydneyraechin@gmail.com.

Her influences:

1. Audre Lorde

2. HATIWG Philly (Healing and Trauma-Informed Working Group)

3. Her ancestors and grandparents

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Photo of Sydney Rae Chin by Sheila Joy.  Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.

#2.6 Lina Dune on Pitching a Tent

Lina Dune (@askasub) and I discuss BDSM, camping, and more.

Her influences:

1. Anais Nin

2. Sex workers

3. Her current relationship

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.

#2.5 Mia Schachter on Sharing the Load

CW: Suicidal ideation and sexual assault.

In this week’s episode, Laurel Atwell interviewed me!

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Unedited video version with subtitles on YouTube.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.

#2.4 Laurel Atwell Says, "Today Is Day"

Laurel Atwell, Qi Gong teacher and performer, and I discuss feeling depleted and feeling resourced and how to access the circumstances that create the environment to feel nourished.

You can find Laurel on IG: @_at_the_well and her tattoos are @spooky_action.tif.

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on whatever platform you listen on, share on social media, and share directly with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Unedited video version with subtitles on YouTube.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.

#2.3 Jimanekia Eborn on Looking Outside of Yourself

Jimanekia, the one and only Trauma Queen, and I talk about self care plans, running a business, and a new definition of empathy. Jimanekia is a co-founding member of Centaury Co., our Intimacy Coordination training program.

You can find her on Instagram @jimanekia and you can find her podcast Trauma Queen wherever you get your podcasts.

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. The Share the Load Patreon is now a place for DIY, self-paced learning about consent and boundaries and starts at $5 a month. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on Apple Podcasts, share on social media, and to share with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Unedited video version with subtitles on YouTube.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG and Twitter @consentwizard.

#2.2 Lola Jean on All Kinds of Accountability

Lola Jean and I talk about confidence, consent, and accountability.

You can find Lola Jean on IG @lolajeandotcom and via her website. You can hear her podcast Is Our Love ___? on all podcast platforms including PornHub.

Please consider becoming a member to keep this show going on Patreon. Other ways to support the show are to write a review on Apple Podcasts, share on social media, and to share with friends.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Unedited video version with subtitles on YouTube.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter: @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG @miaschachter.

Photo of Lola by Hannah Cohen.

#2.1 Meenadchi on Redefining Labor

In this week’s episode, Meenadchi (IG: @whostoleserendib) and I discuss the difference between labor and purpose, and invisible labor vs unacknowledged labor.

Produced and edited by Stella Hartmann. Logo by Candice Ploy Goodman. Beginning and ending music by me, and mid-episode music by Tyler Fjeld.

Unedited video version with subtitles on YouTube.

Follow the podcast on IG and Twitter: @sharetheloadpod, and me on IG @miaschachter.

#15 Kamra on How the Work Has Changed

Kamra is back to talk with me about how the work has changed since our first episode.

Kamra (they/them) is a 27 year-old Brooklyn-based futurity artist using the mediums of dance, music, writing, and movement building to create worlds and possibilities beyond the status quo.

You can find them @blackqueerbaby and @activationresidency on Instagram. You can invest in Farming Futurity by Venmo’ing @activation or at Paypal.me/activationretreat.

If you're considering becoming a member on Patreon, I ask instead that you direct your funds to organizations that support Black lives, or directly to Black individuals in need of financial support. @therevolutionwillbefunded and @activationresidency (on IG) are two places that I recommend and continually invest in myself.

Other ways to support the show are to write a review on Apple Podcasts, share on social media, and to share with friends.

Recorded, edited, and produced by Pete Szijarto @directorpete. Music by Tyler Fjeld. Cover art by Candice Ploy Goodman @candiceployg.

Share the Load is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and YouTube (with subtitles).

#14 Augustus Prew on Being Wrong

Augustus Prew is an actor and a friend known for various shows such as The Morning Show, Pure Genius, Prison Break and Special.

Auggie's Influences:

  1. his husband Jeffrey Self for always being his authentic self and helping Auggie to do the same.

  2. a conversation that he had with a stranger, Jamie, in Thailand who said, "This is really inappropriate, but I'm pretty sure you're gay."

  3. his mom's advice: "Whenever something is really scary, just take a deep breath and go for it."

IG and Twitter: @augustusprew

You can send listener questions about boundaries and consent to be answered on the show to podcast@sharetheloadinc.com.

If you're considering becoming a member on Patreon, I ask instead that you direct your funds to organizations that support Black lives, or directly to Black individuals in need of financial support. @therevolutionwillbefunded and @activationresidency (on IG) are two places that I recommend and continually invest in myself.

Other ways to support the show are to write a review on Apple Podcasts, share on social media, and to share with friends.

Recorded, edited, and produced by Pete Szijarto @directorpete. Music by Tyler Fjeld. Cover art by Candice Ploy Goodman @candiceployg.

Share the Load is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and YouTube (with subtitles).