April 2-day:
Boundaries + Consent:
BACK2BASICS
THE Yes-to-No Spectrum AND NONVERBALS
VIRTUAL: Wednesday April 16 + Thursday April 17, 5–7pm PT / 8–10pm ET. Recordings will be available only to students who registered in advance.
Please note: Recordings of this program will be for sale after the program, so that others can get the material virtually and do it in their own time. If you do not want to be in the recordings, you will be able to turn your camera off, and I can stop recording if you want to share out loud without being recorded.
This program is founded on autonomy + agency.
I believe consent is a shared responsibility, not that of one person or demographic. I believe we must take responsibility for risks we knowingly take and choices we make, and move through regret when it comes. I don’t believe in blaming and punishing people without access to quality consent education. I believe in rehabilitation and repair. I believe we have an obligation to learn and communicate our own boundaries, as much as to ask and check in about others’. If we redirected resources toward healing, support, and education, and away from trying to identify and punish “guilty” parties (often by incarceration), we would all be better off.
My respecting your autonomy includes trusting you to know what you need. I will support you in building a care plan at the beginning of class so you have it as tough things come up.
Beginning with consent knowledge, vocab, and frameworks, this class will help you communicate in a fraction of the time you're used to, as well as gain confidence, self-trust, and ease in your relationships with yourself and others.
is this program for you?
This class is like boot camp for your boundaries. It will help you identify and express your boundaries, learn how to advocate for yourself and when to let go of things that waste your time and energy, and notice your own stress indicators so you can go stare at yourself in the bathroom mirror and take a few deep breaths before going back to the party.
It’s great for people who people-please, struggle to say no, feel burnt out, feel taken advantage of, or have a hard time identifying and asking for what they need. It’s also great for anyone who has been told they’re pushy, intimidating, or hard to say no to, or who tends to make indirect requests.
You’ll learn what consent is and what it’s not, you’ll learn about the Yes-to-No Spectrum and Nonverbals, and you’ll practice in breakout rooms to really get this stuff into your body.
I use a trauma-informed, neurodiversity-aware approach to consent that takes the gut-brain axis into account. Consent is more than “no means no” or getting permission. Consent is a language and an embodied practice that we’re expected to understand as simply as breathing. But it’s not that simple!
This class is likely not a good fit for those who have just dipped their toe into consent or are at the beginning of their journey saying no. If you’ve just discovered that you haven’t been saying no, I recommend waiting until you’ve found your footing before signing up. This class contains some tough love, and you may want to start with a gentler approach <3
“My approach is to zoom in so we can slow down, and begin to make the unconscious conscious.”
What will we be doing?
This is a hybrid live and recorded class. Before we begin, you’ll receive recordings of my classes Practice Saying No and Nonverbals (a $150 value), which will inform Class 2’s exercises.
Class 1: What is consent?, The Consent Iceberg, and The Yes-to-No Spectrum
Class 2: Nonverbal + Practice Exercises: Bringing it into the body
This course will give you tools to access your confidence, ask for what you want, say no, take rejection with gratitude, and advocate for yourself. You’ll leave with deep, intuitive understanding of power dynamics and the tools to communicate with more nuance and subtlety. You’ll begin to access the embodied sense of your boundaries, which will help you find needed options, structure, and space for creativity in your life.
This is a skill-building intro course that will change how you think about consent and your boundaries:
You’ll learn vocab to express yourself more clearly.
You’ll learn to feel your boundaries and communicate them.
You’ll practice saying “no.”
You’ll get more in touch with your needs and desires.
You’ll learn to feel your capacity and not go beyond it.
You’ll feel your yes and your no in your body so you can think less.
This is the Consent Iceberg, a tool for thinking more deeply about what we say yes to.
“This class pulled back the curtain on consent and showed me how conscious consent practices can be applied to a wide range of relationships and social contexts (including our relationships with ourselves). I feel like I have a brand new toolkit for navigating and naming feelings that would have otherwise gone unexamined.”
Payment + Pricing
This class is $99.
You can read about why our prices are what they are on our Business + Financial Transparency page. If this is cost-prohibitive, you are always welcome to make us an offer, especially if you are in a country where the exchange rate makes this class financially inaccessible.
Please note: The deadline for refunds is 24 hours before the first class.
“In order to explore and be creative, we have to feel safe. Consent work can give you the internal sense of safety you need to move through the world with less friction, find flow, and express yourself. ”
