September || For Practitioners:
The Yes to No Spectrum 5-Day Intensive
VIRTUAL: DATES TBD. Sign up for the newsletter for updates.
**Please note that the recordings of this program will be for sale after the program so that others can get the material virtually and do it in their own time. You will be able to turn your camera off and I can stop recording if you want to share out loud int he group without being in the recordings.
“Few things are more important than the Yes-to-No Spectrum in consent education. Knowing where I am on the spectrum in different situations and responding appropriately are the most transformative practices!”
Who is it for?
This is a great fit for therapists, coaches, sex-ed or lifeskills teachers, healers, practitioners, Intimacy Coordinators, and anyone who works in sex-related or intimacy fields.
This is the Yes to No Spectrum, and the cornerstone of this intensive.
The intention of this intensive is for you to be able to offer your clients—whether it’s 1:1, coaching, therapy, or workshops—the Yes to No Spectrum through a trauma-informed lens, support them in caring for themselves through no’s, and build your own care plan for doing this work sustainably.
If your clients are looking for practical tools, skills, vocabulary, and exercises to help them communicate better, ask for what they need, identify their desires, feel deserving of them, and ask for them, say no, advocate for themselves, ask for a raise, heal attachment wounds, find secure attachment with self, stop patterns in their relationships that result in their continuing to squash their sense of self, needs, and boundaries, this program will give you so many things you’ll be able to share and use yourself.
This is a trauma- and toxic stress-aware, neuro-diversity-informed approach to consent that takes the gut-brain axis into account.
Consent is more than “no means no” or getting permission. Consent is a language and an embodied practice.
**PLEASE NOTE: This is not the Consent Educator Program, and if you’re interested in business support, building a sustainable and scaleable business structure, and creating your own workshops and 1:1 practice, that program will be a better fit for you. However, this program will go more in depth with the Yes to No Spectrum, so if you’d like to do both trainings, email me so we can work out an affordable bundle situation so you don’t pay full price for both.
What will we be doing?
Class 1: Your Care Plan, What is Consent? FRIES + The Consent Iceberg
Class 2: Power Dynamics as fluid and multi-layered, and Why do consent violations occur?
Class 3: The Yes to No Spectrum
Class 4: Practice Exercises: Feeling Your Yes and No in the Body, and building your own exercises to teach
Class 5: Moving Through the No Side with Care
There will be slides with vocabulary and frameworks, discussion, breakout room questions and practice exercises, and some out of class suggested homework. There will be a few video or written resources that you’ll need to watch in order to follow along. None will be more than 45 minutes of additional work outside of class, except when you’re practicing teaching.
Some of the suggested assignments include:
Teaching the content we’ve learned
Running the practice exercises we do in class with people in your life
Building your own exercises
Various journal prompts
Defining terms yourself
**All sessions will be recorded for you and not to be shared, and can be viewed later in the day if you miss a class session. However, please note that these recordings will be for sale after the program so that others can get the material virtually and do it in their own time. You will be able to turn your camera off and I can stop recording if you want to share out loud int he group without being in the recordings.
“Amazing what we were able to accomplish in five days—felt like a lot of information, resources and references were plentiful, but also shared in the right amount of time. I really appreciated the balance of ‘lecture’ and ‘practice’. We learned by doing and talking through the process of doing and envisioning teaching the different exercises, sharing the frameworks, and vocabulary.”
An expanded version of the Yes to No Spectrum.
What will you get out of it?
Tools, skills, vocab, and exercises for you to make your own and teach yourself*
You'll learn vocab that will help you express yourself more clearly and more quickly!
You’ll be able to teach my Practice Saying No class. Payment for this class includes licensing that content.
You'll learn to feel your boundaries and communicate them.
You'll practice saying 'no.'
You'll get more in touch with your needs and desires.
You'll learn to feel your capacity and not go beyond it.
You’ll feel your yes and your no in your body so you can think less.
You’ll be able to support clients and students in feeling these things for themselves.
You’ll be able to support them in identifying and asking for their needs and desires.
You’ll be able to build your own curriculum.
*This program does not provide a teaching packet, because I want you to take this information and make it yours.
Read what people are saying about these classes.
“It has helped to shape my understanding of boundaries both for myself and with others. Being able to visually check-in with myself using this framework has been a tool I continue to use and find necessary to help me identify and internalize what I really feel.”
Payment + Pricing
This intensive is $1000. However, $750 and $500 options are available for those who:
are S€x Workers
have been incarcerated
have excessive medical costs
have debilitating student loans
have ancestors who experienced slavery
have ancestors who experienced, or have themselves experienced, land theft
live somewhere where the exchange rate makes the full price cost-prohibitive
need to use it.
Wondering if this scale is for you? It is. Still not sure? It is. Still not sure?? Email me.
Prices are set at a rate such that even at the lowest rate, I feel good providing the work, as in, not depleted or taken advantage of. If you feel uneasy using the lower tier but it makes it possible for you to join a program, use it! The ways you can pay it forward include inviting your friends to join with you, forwarding the program and other CW programs to friends, family, and colleagues, and spreading the word any way you can. You can sign up for the newsletter and forward it, send your boss our Professional Wellness Consulting page, subscribing, rating, and reviewing the podcast, subscribing on Instagram, and any other way you can think of to help get the word out.
*3-week payment plans are available.
Your job should sponsor you!! If you need a letter from me or any further information, I’m happy to help. Just email me to let me know what to provide.
You can read about why my prices are what they are on my Business + Financial Transparency page.
If this is cost-prohibitive, you are always welcome to make me an offer, especially if you are in a country where the exchange rate makes this class financially inaccessible.
Some of the Recommended Reading List (not required; you will not be tested)
Queer Attachment Zine
Care Work by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
Turn This World Upside Down by Nora Samaran
Decolonizing Nonviolent Communication Workbook by Meenadchi
Have questions? Email me!
“THANK YOU! This was incredibly valuable to me. I really appreciate all of the resources and access to them after the course as well. There were ideas I thought I understood because I’ve heard them explained to me several times but I feel like I have a much deeper understanding on them and connection I definitely didn’t have before. I feel like the concept of consent was previously pretty clear in my mind but I felt the complexities really sink in and click for me during this class. I will absolutely be back for more classes with Consent Wizardry!”
“As a sex coach, I wanted to participate in Mia’s Train the Trainer course in order to learn and then be able to teach their Yes/No Spectrum and Practice Saying No class to help people discover and confidently communicate their sexual desires. I love the simplicity of the tool and process and I appreciate Mia’s teaching style. Their combination of practical and theoretical/informational contributes to learning and the pace allowed for processing and integration of the concepts. They created a safe/brave space (e.g. through guidelines, expectations and the set up of the container) that was welcoming as well. They provided additional resources/homework that supplemented what was taught in class. I now have a simple, clear tool to add to my tool kit and how I support people in the work I do.”
“I am so happy Mia Schachter found this work so helpful to them but they decided to share it so that others could use it not only for themselves but to teach others. The one thing I find hard about online classes is that teachers forget about the student’s safety, health, and capacity. Mia’s work addresses not only these issues through it’s overall content but Mia also walks their talk and what they teach. The classes create space for play, rest, openness, honesty, and acceptance while still being jam packed with useful knowledge that will open your mind and heart. Through Mia’s ability to embody what they teach, I could find my own clarity, confidence, and power to implement these teachings into my personal and professional life. I am so grateful!”
“The Y-N spectrum often comes to mind when I’m considering my options outside of a binary yes/no. It’s a helpful visual representation that being out of your comfort zone isn’t always a red flag, and immediate yesses should sometimes be considered for more time… the visual representation is useful for gauging the complexity of my desires, needs, asks, and others’ responses to them.”
“I feel like the yes to know spectrum has helped me be less judgmental and more gentle with myself. It’s a super practical tool that aids my decision making and ability to communicate when I’m feeling overwhelmed or disconnected. Super grateful I found it”
“The Y-N Spectrum has given me a way to dialogue with myself when I’m having complex, confusing or ambiguous feelings. It’s a way that I can unpack the layers of desire, and separate them from layers of pressure, fear or shutdown.
Knowledge of the Y-N spectrum has also changed how I listen to others’ responses — I listen with more depth after I make an ask, offer, or invitation. I find that I’m more attuned to notice if the person is answering out of pressure… or if they are saying “yes” but giving off all the signals of a ‘maybe’ or ‘no.’
It’s the richness of the ‘maybe’ that has been the most helpful to me— that there are many different emotional tones in there that I can understand and explore.
Now that I understand the depth of the ‘maybe’ space, it feels like a viable answer - not just an unspecific limbo. From an informed ‘maybe’ I can actually find action steps, renegotiations, and movement.”
—B
“I use the yes to no spectrum quite often in my coaching work, and find it to be a remarkable tool for helping clients identify where in their body their authentic answers are. It also helps them to discover their patterns of how they have attempted to override their own consent in the past. It tends to be a breakthrough point for my clients, as well as a language we refer to as we progress through the work of accountability and boundary design.”
“The Yes-No Spectrum is such a transformational tool! Before it, I couldn’t describe what I felt when approaching various situations, I struggled to talk through shared decisions, and I made big life changes impulsively or in a state of frozen numbness. With the Yes-No Spectrum, I have a framework for reconnecting with my body, a grounded structure for navigating decisions with others, and I can trust myself to make choices that keep me safe.”